On a recent podcast interview, the host asked me how I came to my current feelings around body acceptance. Until that point, I hadn’t really traced back the evolution of my thoughts. Many people who do this kind of work do it because they struggled with their own issues and worked through them. After coming out on the other side, they wanted to help others do the same thing.
That’s not my story.
It feels strange to say, but aside from the past year, I personally have not struggled that much with body image issues. Like most women, I’ve had issues here and there, but growing up in a body that was generally accepted by the mainstream at least meant that I didn’t have to deal with judgements or criticisms from anyone outside of myself.
If you’ve been here from the beginning, you’ll know that when I started mindful closet, I was focused on minimalism. I felt like we were all drowning in stuff, and that’s partially true. But over time, I worked with hundreds of women, seeing them emotionally and physically naked. Going through the backstories of the clothes they held onto for decades, I saw the same thing holding them all back. And it was how they felt about their bodies.
The women I worked with weren’t able to become minimalist or anything close to it because they felt bad about their bodies. Because they weren’t able to accept that it was ok for their bodies to change throughout their lives, they felt that letting go of those old clothes would somehow signify giving up. On shopping trip after shopping trip, I saw that if women had permission to buy clothes that fit and felt good on their current bodies, they were able to give attention to more important things.
It made me feel so sad about the amount of energy that went into this self-flagellation and made me feel strongly that women could live happier lives if they could come to a place of body acceptance.
How does body acceptance relate to minimalism?
If you can accept that it’s ok for your body to change, you can let go of all the stuff you’ve holding onto because you thought you had to contort your body back into some past version of yourself.
If you’re not buying clothes for some fantasy life or body, you’ll naturally buy less. You’ll only buy things because you like them and they work for your life and your body as it is now.
If you trust and respect your current body, you’ll naturally want to clothe it in only things that make it feel good and you’ll have higher standards for the things you allow into your wardrobe.
So body acceptance has slowly become my focus. If we can work toward it, the rest will follow.
If you’d like to talk about how you can work toward body acceptance through the lens of wardrobe, book a free 20 minute clarity call to talk about what that might look like for you.
P.S. Reading has always been my entry point into new ideas. Here are a few of my favorite books on this topic (these are affiliate links and may earn me a small commission if you purchase through them).